It's ALL the Rage: Catcalls & Crying

DO NOT CATCALL A CRYING PERSON.

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Please don’t catcall anyone ever. A good portion of the time it’s just annoying or gross. But upon occasion, y’all venture into territory that makes people feel really scared and uncomfortable. Either way, it's unwelcome. Stop.

My favorite reaction to a catcall/ass grab comes from my very kind coworker who simply stated “This is harassment!” in a way that confounded the man so deeply he started apologizing. DID HE NOT KNOW?!? COOL IT, PEOPLE.

BUT FOR PURPOSES OF SPECIFICITY: DO NOT CATCALL A CRYING HUMAN ON THE STREET:

  1. SOMETHING VERY BAD HAS HAPPENED TO THEM. THEY ARE CRYING IN PUBLIC.

  2. THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE IN TERMS OF “MAKING A SCENE.” THEY ARE ALREADY MAKING A SCENE THEMSELVES. YOU DON'T SCARE THEM.

  3. BECAUSE SOMETHING BAD HAS HAPPENED TO THEM. THEY ARE PROBABLY LOOKING TO BLOW OFF SOME STEAM, AND YELLING AT A STRANGER SEEMS LIKE A HEALTHY USE OF ANGER.

  4. THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE. YOU WILL BE VERBALLY DESTROYED.

  5. DON’T CATCALL ANYONE.

  6. IF YOU SEE SOMEONE GET CATCALLED, A NICE AND FIRM “Hey now,” IN A TEACHER VOICE DIRECTED AT THE CATCALLER WOULD PROBABLY NOT BE UNWELCOME BY THE CATCALLEE.

Part of the reason that Bad Time was created is to prevent myself from getting into verbal fights with pedestrians whose only sin is walking too slow. However, I will HAPPILY get into a shouting match with anyone who is CATCALLING A CRYING PERSON ON THE STREET.